Is talking to other people really that easy ?

OK so , when you talk to someone, do you find it difficult? Do you find it easy ? What I mean is- can you say a simple hello ? Can you look someone in the eye when speaking to them ? Are you distracted easily while someone is speaking to you ?  Can you talk to a certain someone if you have something on your mind or if something is bothering you ?  Or do you keep everything bottled up inside and keep everything inside without ever saying anything to anyone.

So why do some people find it difficult to talk to others while some find it easier ? The answer may surprise you. You see, It may not be what you’re saying to the person you’re taking to. Infact- it has more to do with what the other person is saying- and what is that ?  NOTHING- Thats right- sometimes is nothing.  Thats because that person is listening and very rarely commenting. And when they are commenting, its only to comfirm what you are saying.  So when you do speak to a person and you are lucky enough to find that person that listens- you are willing to talk more- and open up more . Once you are done talking, the person listening may offer advice or opinions, or they may just acknowledge your thoughts, but they listened.  It’s not a perfect science and yea the person listening may not offer the best advice , but the idea is for there to be a form of communication between two people .

When you don’t have anyone to talk to -stress bulds up. Your life can become hectic and seem very difficult. If you dont have that certain someone to talk to on a regular basis , try other methods of communication.

Throughout my many years of banking, I learned many forms of communication. I always treated every single person I met with the utmost respect and as if they were my one of my  friends. I wasnt lying, I really did enjoy the interaction. I smiled and treated them exactly the way I wanted them to treat me. Well guess what ? , Everytime you talk to people after youve gotten to know them, they tell you a little about themself, dont they ?  And you tell them about yourself too. And suddenly youve made friends and you find yourself opening up to people when you never really thought you would ! hmmmm . funny how that works. It may not be deep dark secrets. But it may be a method to help some people that dont have that certain someone to turn too. www.lorenzovictory.com

So no matter who you are-Talking really is that easy !

Start to change by inspiring yourself

If you are to change your life, you have to first inspire yourself. There are so many things in life that we can learn. There are many mistakes in life to make. The important lesson is realizing the mistake and learning from the mistake. Making a mistake doesn’t make you a bad person -it only makes you a normal person. We must be satisfied with the direction our life is headed or make changes in our life to alter that. We must inspire ourselves to start the process. We have to want to change. Then -others that are involved in our life can inspire us further. It’s important to have that base of inspiration from the beginning but ultimately we and only we can make the change. Life is happening , the question is-are you moving forward with it ? – or are you stuck behind the same obstacles you were 2 years ago. Set goals and priorities-and be positive. -Lorenzo Victory  www.lorenzovictory.com

Feeding off each others energy

There’s definitely something to be said here. Feeding off each others energy not only works- it has proven to be highly effective.(or ineffective). When you are in one of those moods, and you just dont feel like doing anything, what do you do ?  When you’re in a great mood and things are going great and nothing can go wrong-what do you do ?  Well, if you’re like many other people, you tend to act out your emotions. Have you ever noticed the effect this has on some people around you ? When you are happy and feeling real good, it tends to bring the mood up in the room , doesnt it ? And when you’re feeling down, do you tend to keep to yourself ? All quiet and non talkative, or do you try to bring the tone in the room down by making sure everyone knows you’re having a bad day. But isn’t it amazing how sometimes it’s that one person or persons that can suddenly alter your day ? Isn’t it amazing how you can be having a bad day and how if just one person does something the right way-like smile-or laugh-or make you laugh-or maybe even asks you whats wrong, or any one of these things, how it can change your mood any behavior ? And if youre in a great mood, the same applies. One sudden behavior sometimes by someone can alter your mood. Energy is a very powerful force. Several people with the same positive proactive energy can do amazing things. You dont even have to be inside the same room to spread positive energy to other people. But other people can still feed off of it. Negativity has only succeeded in failing to be positive. Lorenzo Victory http://www.lorenzovictory.com/

Simple Steps to Confidence

Throughout our whole life, all we look for  as a person , is to be loved and cared for. All we look for is to be told that we matter to that person. We are given values and morals and taught how to respect others. We are taught to believe in ourselves and to be confident in our own abilities to do whatever it is that we seek out to do. And we are taught that no matter what happens in life-no matter what the circumstance is, that our loved ones will support and stand behind us no matter what. We are taught that we must be ethical and work and do our best with whatever it is we do and that regardless of the end result, we are loved. I mean—we are ALL taught this, right ? We do all experience this dont we ? Do some of you get told this once in a while ? Do some get this told this all the time ? Do some of you wonder what the hell I’m talking about ? Why is that ? Why are  some parents/guardians better at conveying this message so that the children grow up-more confident-loved, full of self esteem, integrity. Every child must learn how to be confident and how to cooperate with others and how to have self esteem and how to be happy with themselves in general. The teenage years add a whole new realm of problems to their life. We all face obstacles in our life that range from daily life issues to medical issues. We must have strong support from those who care for us.  We must learn that obstacles exist in life and we have to face some of those obstacles if we are to overcome them. If we look at the obstacle as a problem-then the obstacle becomes a problem. We must still live our life . And move on. Be confident and know that we will be successful at anything we desire. Having a positive attitude is always important. Focus on living life daily and what your goals are and not what your problems. Don’t ignore change in your life. Accept that change happens but understand that how you react to that change- is what matters. http://www.lorenzovictory.com/

Is today the day we awaken with our mind wide open ?

From about the time we become a teen, we all face days where we face adversityof some kind. Sure, many days are normal, get up and go days. Go to school or go to work . You go through your nomal routine that you’ve been accustomed to and you go through the motions. You learn how to make friends and how to get learn right from wrong and how to survive in the work place . Bottom line is that if you work hard and do your best, you will excell at what you do. That formula is a proven formula that has worked for centuries-right ? What about all the outside variables ? Who prepares us for that ?  Is there a way to know as a 12 year old that some people are going to like you just because they like you,and others are going to dislike you because they think youre fat or ugly or black or poor ?  What about in business? Is it about being prepared ? Is success about education or is it about knowledge ? Is there a difference between the two ? I think so. You can have 8 years of college education and 2 degrees and someone with just 2 years of college could have far more success . Do you think that success is more about the mind and about confidence and about attitude and about believeing in your abilities than it is about anything else.  I mean-yes-You must establish a perception about yourself and that starts with respect. You must give it and you must earn it. And then you must work to prove to yourself that you can succeed. Education is important-but a degree does not equate to intelligence. Your mind can guide you through any obstacle you face every day and allow you to live life. Lorenzo Victory http://www.lorenzovictory.com/